Hi Gorgeous,
The TRUTH: You need to make a CHOICE.
Sorry, but you can’t have both.
You can’t follow your heart unapologetically and also be everybodies DARLING. That’s NOT the way it works! At least I have never met someone who was successful in this way. If you have, please reach out I would love to have a chat. I found, that not everyone will understand and like your heart’s desires.
SO you need to make a choice. There is no other way.
Following your heart can mean that your loved ones don’t understand you anymore or that some of your friends will turn their back on you. It is not what needed to happen, but most likely it will, because if you grow, if you evolve and they are not growing with you, than it is natural that you don’t want to spend that much time together.
IF you want to have meaningful conversations, you can’t hang out with a person only doing small talk. If you want to up your money mindset, you can’t hang with someone who tells you the price they paid for their last cup of coffee when they went out. If you want to make more sales in your business, you can’t have conversations about business with someone who is hiding and afraid of selling. If you love traveling don’t spend your time with someone who does not….
I think you get what I am saying, right?
Find the right people to support you, who you look up to, who you admire and who you can learn from.
Making this choice was very painful for me because I saw that I had to let go of relationships. Relationships I felt conformable with because in a relationship you always share common experiences -good or bad or good and bad and you bonded. Letting go of such a bond can be very painful and yet it is very rewarding because you open yourself up for new relationships, your energy will shift, you will attract other people who get you at that moment in time, who understand where you are and where you want to go, who are with you on your journey.
Making space in your relationships is such an important thing to do.
Now, you don’t need to go out and tell your friends you are done with them. No worries. BUT make sure you spend your time wisely, you are making the choice and you are not just following a pattern because you have been doing it for so long. Say no to what does not feel good anymore.
Be mindful with whom you hang out or chat hours over the phone. Follow your heart. Your heart already knows who is not serving your higher purpose anymore.
Be strong and bold enough to make adjustments.
The right people are already there waiting for you, you only need to show up and you can’t if you go to a coffee shop instead making small talk with a friend because that is what you did for the last 10 years. Rather say no and go to the networking event, have conversations about your passion that lights you up and you’ll discover that you are not alone, you will see that other people are sharing your vision and that you can make new friends and new allies to support your journey.
So Gorgeous, just be daring.
Take your journal and answer the question of what YOU really, really want.
What makes your heart sing? Don’t judge, don’t worry if you can make money with it!
Just get it out on paper so you gain clarity.
Remember: Stop JUST dreaming. Act NOW!
XOXO
Christine