Christine Schlonski [0:02]
Hi Gorgeous! This is episode number 239. You’re listening to Heart Sells! Podcast. I’m your host Christine Schlonski. And it is variety Friday.

Christine Schlonski [0:12]
So, welcome, welcome, welcome. And thank you so much for being here, for tuning in. It has been such a week, this week, I have been on an emotional roller coaster and you probably too and so I thought what can I share with you today, right? Variety Fridays are here to you know, share my knowledge of over a decade and high ticket event sales, over the phone and in person, and also the entrepreneurial journey that I am on so you can learn and be inspired. And I help people to redefine sales so I help them from feeling like sales is something you know, icky, sleazy, pushy and just never will feel good to actually selling this ease, grace, confidence, asking your price, being authentic, and true to your values while having fun conversations instead of sales conversations. And when we have conversations, obviously, we have them with our, hopefully, soulmate clients, and you’re really, really clear on your niche, who you are serving what you are doing so that you know the amazing value you provide.

Christine Schlonski [1:20]
And I also share resources on variety Fridays, or answer your questions. And one of my amazing, amazing listeners is actually Joon. Thank you so much, Joon, for always giving such great feedback, for posting questions, for cheering me on, on my journey. And you are an inspiration for me. And I just wanted to give you the shout out and say, thank you so much, Joon Chang, for tuning in and for listening, and for sharing so much of your beautiful self with the world. So, Joon was wondering, what I do to be connected to the inner best self, and to build a positive and optimistic mindset during the course of the day? And what I do that the mindset is so strong, that, you know, I can sustain whole peace, joy, and love? And right now to be really honest, it’s not that easy.

Christine Schlonski [2:23]
Because, you know, I’m sad. I feel uncertainty, I feel like disbelief like, is this really a thing? I mean, is this something that can happen in the world? And you know, everybody’s starting conversations all over the world. And that I feel hope to seeing people being peaceful, having conversations. I see my colleagues having conversations with their clients, I have conversations with my clients. And just by opening up and not judging at this really, really, really empowering. So I’m going to give you three tools you can use, if you wanted to, I’m using them to make sure you are showing up as your best self.

Christine Schlonski [3:07]
Well, one of my favorite tools is obviously, journaling. I’ve talked about it quite a bit. So when you sit down and you really, really are honest and truthful with yourself, right? Nobody’s going to read your journal if you don’t give it to people. So just having that honest conversation with yourself, and I feel right now, using the “I am statements” are really, really empowering. Because if you want to show love, if you want to show light, if you want to show joy, peace to others, you have to feel that yourself. And it all, it always starts with us, right? So only turn inside, and we actually have a look like how do you want to feel? Because hurt people, hurt people and happy people, make people happy? So how do you feel? What do you want to give to the world today, Right?

Christine Schlonski [4:04]
Don’t make it a five-year plan. Like what is it today? And then you can repeat the process during the day whenever something happens that you know takes you off course. So, just writing “I am statements” because when you know you are perfect, you are gorgeous, you are wonderful, you are loved, you are worth it. You don’t need validation from without you have it within that is where things change. And you can start with writing “I am statements”. For example, I often write “I Am Love”, not “I am loved” or you know “I want to give love” or “I want to share love”. It’s like no, “I Am Love”, right? From like the 100% of everyone’s soul is actually LOVE. So how can I tune into that strong emotion and vibration of love?

Christine Schlonski [5:07]
When you say “I am love” and you start to believe it, that is when things will change because nobody can love you in a way that you do not give it to yourself so when you love yourself first and that you give other people the permission to do that too. So really tuning into love, and you can also say well “I am confident”, “I am strength”, “I am health”, like whatever you want to experience just write that down over and over and over again and feel it while you write it down. So I am statements are really, really, powerful for me. And then with those, “I am statements”, I am always setting an intention for the day.

Christine Schlonski [5:56]
So how do I want to feel today? And even the more and better question is how do I want to make people feel during my day? And my intention is always that everyone who interacts will be, with me, will be better off, right? So I’m always looking for that way, for that angle, like putting a smile on someone’s face or you know, just listening to what they have to say to their story without judging, holding a space.

Christine Schlonski [6:27]
Maybe sharing an idea, maybe telling them a joke, like something that uplifts them, something that you know, they feel better off after our conversation or after the interaction than they have been before. And my intention is to do that with everything I do with the podcast, where you know, you were listening and I don’t really know your response. But with my copy, with my blogs, with everything I put out. I want people to feel better than they have felt before they interacted in some way, shape, or form. So journaling is a really big one, then also meditating. And by meditating, for me, it doesn’t work that you know, I’m not thinking or that it’s just, you know, my mind is totally still that never works out.

Christine Schlonski [7:18]
So I’ve given up on that idea of meditation, but just sitting with myself, and feeling myself, and being grateful that I am here, that I exist. And you know, just feeling my body and feeling the emotions like what’s going on right now? You know, maybe you’re really worried right now, what’s going on in the world? Maybe, one of your prospects has just given you a no on your amazing services? Maybe, a client that you dearly love has complained and you’re worried, how to deal with it, right? So whatever it is, whatever the emotions are, that are coming up accepting them, that they exist, not suppressing them or repressing them, but allowing them to wash over you. So if you feel sad right now, well allow that sadness to wash over you.

Christine Schlonski [8:14]
Allow the anger if you’re feeling angry to wash over, you just feel the emotion, don’t suppress it. And then also, you know, after a while, decide on a new emotion because this emotion is not going to uplift you, this emotion, if it’s negative, is probably not putting you in a vibration where you can serve, where you can show up as your best self? So making new decisions, right? Sometimes I just feel sad. And then you know, I sit and I think like, well, that sucks. I feel sad. And I allow myself to feel sad, and sometimes I can’t figure out the reason. But I allow myself to feel that feeling. And from there, then I move on asking myself, well, how would I love to feel instead?

Christine Schlonski [9:03]
Well, obviously I want to feel peaceful, and I want to feel bliss, and I want to be inflow. So I go back to those “I am statements”. I Am Love, right? And then what your mind can’t hold two thoughts at the same time. So if you’re thinking like I am love, what you cannot really think like I’m sad, or I feel sad, right? So you can really shift that emotion. But feel it first let it wash over you and then decide that, okay, enough is enough, right? I want to move on and then put yourself into that beautiful space. And you can do that any time of the day whenever you feel like there’s something off, you’re not an alignment with your higher self, with who you really are. You don’t feel the love at the moment. Then you just tune in and you meditate or you know, you take out a piece of paper and write down some “I am statements”. And if it’s something that is really, really deep in your core that you might be schlepping around since years or generations, and it’s really heavy, and it’s maybe a traumatic experience, you can actually go and look on YouTube for tapping videos, there is a lot of support, where tapping really releases these negative emotions in yourself and your body.

Christine Schlonski [10:30]
And you can actually then move on. It’s not like, Whatever happens, you will forget that but you can experience it in a different way, with calm, with peace, maybe even with compassion, and you can let go of these trapped emotions in your body. And there’s especially one technique that I have learned a while ago, which I found really, really supportive, especially for situations that are a little bit traumatic or not a little bit like that. traumatic, and it’s called the trauma tapping technique. You can look that up on YouTube. It’s by a lady called Gunilla Hannah. And she’s from Sweden, I believe, and she has developed this technique, it’s for the peaceful heart. And I think that will really, really support you.

Christine Schlonski [11:19]
No matter how strong your emotions are, there are other techniques, but that basically will really, really support you. So just look it up on YouTube. And then whenever you feel anxiety, whenever you feel sad, or you feel anger or something that’s really in your way of moving forward of healing, whatever needs to be healed, then this technique will really really support you. So look up the trauma tapping technique, and just you know, give it a try, you have nothing to lose. So these are the three things that I do to really move forward, to stay centered to stay with the person that I want to be, and how I want to show up in the world. And that will also help you in your own way, you know, in your unique way to show up in the world by holding the space, not just for others, but also for yourself by having compassion for yourself, by you know, forgiving yourself for maybe mistakes you you’ve done or failures you’ve had, or whatever it is.

Christine Schlonski [12:25]
You can always come back to that space and realize that hurt people, hurt people, and happy people make people happy, as I always say. So what can you do today to make people happy? Well, you got to make yourself happy first. So what can you do to feel that peace, that joy, that happiness, that love, it’s just tuning or turning inward, and you know, going to the place where it’s all already created. And then from there, you come back out and you create and help others to create their truth, their reality by showing up in a strong way.

Christine Schlonski [13:06]
I personally believe building your own business is one way of you showing up in the world and really getting to your highest potential. Because by building your own business by being empowered, by really making revenue, by making money, you can have so much more to give that you have not had before. So becoming an entrepreneur for me was such a life-changing decision. And, you know, now I’m on that path where I, you know, I make those decisions. And obviously, with every decision, there are also consequences. But you are the one who makes the decisions. You are the one who decides, do you want a thriving business? Do you want to play small or do you want to play big, and what does it look like? And I would always encourage you, play big, you have that one life, what are you waiting for, right?

Christine Schlonski [14:05]
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Christine Schlonski [14:55]
And if you feel like you just want to write to me or you want to ask a question, you want to make a comment, please do so by sending an email to info@christineschlonski.com. And I will read your emails and I will reply to you personally. So use that opportunity to connect so I know that you are out there. I know who you are, what you’re doing, and I can support you on your amazing journey. Thank you so much for being here. Have a wonderful day, wherever you are in this beautiful world. And I’m saying bye for now.