Wendy Weiss, President of ColdCallingResults.com, and known as The Queen of Cold Calling™, is recognized as one of the leading authorities on lead generation, cold calling and new business development.
Her clients include Avon Products, ADP, Sprint and thousands of entrepreneurs throughout the world.
Wendy is the author of Cold Calling for Women and the Sales Winner’s Handbook.
She has been featured in the New York Times, BusinessWeek, Entrepreneur Magazine, Selling Power, Inc Magazine, Forbes, Sales & Marketing Management and various other business and sales publications. She is also a featured author in three recently released books, Masters of Sales, Top Dog Sales Secrets and How to Say it: Business to Business Selling.
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3 Key Points:
- The conversation about cold calling is usually to love it or hate it. It’s not that you now love it. That you can do what you need to do, and you don’t have a nervous breakdown about it. You can be effective, you can be successful.
- If you have some calls and they are not successful, that’s data, that’s not rejection. What could you do differently? How could you change that reaction? And we also have to look at what people actually say.
- Selling as a process of disqualification. You do your very best effort to target but then, and you have to be like really disciplined with yourself that if someone doesn’t meet your parameters, they’re not a good lead for you.
[02:51] Selling as a process of disqualification. You do your very best effort to target but then, and you have to be like really disciplined with yourself that if someone doesn’t meet your parameters, they’re not a good lead for you.
[04:08] Sometimes things that we think are selling problems or closing problems are actually prospecting problems.
[06:23] The idea is not to go there and spill your guts. The idea is to find out what’s going on with them. You kind of have to be a detective. Make it about them.
[07:37] So the concept of value is inherent in the definition of the word sell. So I always start with the question, do you believe in the value of whatever it is you’re doing?
[07:57] If you believe in the value and you’ve done your homework, you actually have a moral obligation to let the appropriate people not everybody in the world because not everybody in the world is going to be a fit for you. But the appropriate people, you have a moral obligation to let them know about whatever it is you do, whether or not they choose to take you upon it.
[08:33] If you do not reach out to the appropriate people, you’re doing them a disservice. Because you could help them and they’ll never know it if you don’t talk to them. And that doesn’t mean that everybody is going to say yes to you. But the more you talk to people, more people will say yes.
[08:57] I think that in terms of the fear of cold, calling it It often comes from a funder fundamental misunderstanding of what we’re trying to do. Because we’re not calling up a complete, like, open up the phone book, call a complete stranger and ask them for their credit card.
[15:21] If you have some calls and they are not successful, that’s data, that’s not rejection. What could you do differently? How could you change that reaction? And we also have to look at what people actually say.
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Christine Schlonski [0:02]
Hey Gorgeous. This is episode number 154 and The Queen of Cold Calling, Wendy Weiss, is back today.
Wendy Weiss [0:09]
Hey there everyone. This is Wendy Weiss and you are listening to Heart Sells! Podcast with Christine Schlonski. Enjoy.
Christine Schlonski [0:18]
Well, I’m so excited to have Wendy Weiss back on the show today, The Queen of Cold Calling and President of ColdCallingResults.com. Wendy is recognized as one of the leading authorities on lead generation, cold calling, and new business development. After we learned in the last episode how she went from actually ballet dancer to Queen of Cold Calling™. We are discussing this episode. What do you do next now that you got the appointment? Wendy is the author of Cold Calling for Women and the Sales Winner’s Handbook. She has been featured in The New York Times, Business Week, Entrepreneur Magazine, Selling Power, Inc Magazine, Forbes, Sales & Marketing Management and various other business and sales publications. And today she’s going to share her wisdom with us. I hope you enjoy. Well, I’m so excited you are back on the show, Wendy. Welcome.
Wendy Weiss [1:19]
Thank you for bringing me back. I’m delighted to be here.
Christine Schlonski [1:22]
I really enjoyed our first interview all about targeting and the prospect. Now we have the clarity and I just can’t wait to get your advice of, now what do I have an appointment. What do I say? Yeah, it’s exciting, but it’s also frightening at the same time if I don’t know what are the next steps.
Wendy Weiss [1:45]
So I’m going to go back to what we were discussing in the previous interview which is, if you’ve done your homework and you’ve set up the appointment correctly, then the whole thing gets to be a whole lot easier. And what I mean by that, and I’ll give you an example, from a client of mine who’s a financial advisor, and before we were working together, he was going on a lot of appointments. He was running all over the place. The problem was, they weren’t with the right people. So he would get there. I mean, he couldn’t even help these people. Some of them didn’t have the financial resources for him to be able to help them. While he had all of these appointments, he wasn’t actually getting any clients and that we had to go back to how he was getting the appointments because it does. Selling as a process of disqualification.
Christine Schlonski [2:55]
Can you say that again?
Wendy Weiss [2:56]
Selling is a process of disqualification. And so the idea is, and we talked about this, in the last interview about targeting, you do your very best effort to target but then, and you have to be like really disciplined with yourself that if someone doesn’t meet your parameters, they’re not a good lead for you.
Christine Schlonski [3:28]
Wendy Weiss [3:29]
If you are, someone somehow slips through the cracks and you’re having a conversation and you discover some information that then tells you they’re not a good lead for you. It’s time to let them go. which I know is so hard. Everyone has a hard time with that.
Christine Schlonski [3:48]
And I so agree. It’s one of the hardest things to do, but you get used to it after you’ve done it a while. And it feels so much better at the end than taking somebody on board that you can really support, how you want to support them because both of you will be unhappy.
Wendy Weiss [4:05]
Exactly. Exactly. And you know, sometimes things that we think are selling problems or closing problems are actually prospecting problems. In this case, Jerry, my client, it was a prospecting problem. It was not that he couldn’t get clients. Once, I really had to insist on him, you know, just like go for the best fit disqualify the rest. But once he started doing that his revenue doubled in about six months, over the previous year.
Christine Schlonski [4:41]
And he probably had more time for himself and for what’s the point?
Wendy Weiss [4:44]
Jerry now goes to Hawaii twice a year. He takes ballroom dance classes. He is in such a better place instead of just running around meeting with all these people that he couldn’t help.
Christine Schlonski [4:56]
Yeah, well, I’m glad you got to work with Jerry. He probably forever grateful.
Wendy Weiss [5:00]
Yeah. The process definitely starts with prospecting. That said, once you have that appointment, I’ll give you my favorite question. If I, and it doesn’t really matter how I got the appointment, whether I have cold-called someone, whether I met them at a networking event, whether I have some business development people that set appointments for me now and they set it up, you know, however, it’s a referral. However, I got an appointment. The first question I always ask after the chit chat is out of the way. I’ll say. Let’s say if I cold-called somebody, “What was it about our brief conversation on the phone that made you decide that it made sense to take some time for us to talk?”
Christine Schlonski [5:53]
Wendy Weiss [5:54]
If I get a referral and I’ve set up that appointment. What was it about, whoever it was that referred me. Do you know what’s going on with you that made you decide that it made sense for us to talk? And then I just shut up and see what people have to say. Because we, I think a big mistake, and I’m sure you see this too Christine, the idea is not to go there and spill your guts. The idea is to find out what’s going on with them. You kind of have to be a detective.
Christine Schlonski [6:31]
Yeah, yeah. Make it about them. How can you serve them if you don’t have a clue what’s going on?
Wendy Weiss [6:36]
Christine Schlonski [6:38]
I love that. Such a piece of great advice that you’re sharing. So let me ask you because you seem so confident with cold calling and so feeling great in your skill. And we discussed that in the other interview that it’s a learnable skill, but you have to practice. It’s not coming overnight. What advice can you give people who really feel uncomfortable and a little bit fearful and even having those conversations? Is there anything you could share that makes it a little bit easier to get that practice routine started?
Wendy Weiss [7:16]
Sure. I will begin by saying that I looked up the word sell in the dictionary. And the dictionary definition of the word cell is to persuade someone of the value of whatever it is you’re doing. So the concept of value is inherent in the definition of the word sell. So I always start with the question, do you believe in the value of whatever it is you’re doing? Because if you don’t, go find something else to do.
Christine Schlonski [7:55]
Yes, then come back later.
Wendy Weiss [7:57]
If you believe in the value and you’ve done your homework, and we talked about that a little bit in the other interview, then the way I think about it is you actually have a moral obligation to let the appropriate people not everybody in the world because not everybody in the world is going to be a fit for you. But the appropriate people, you have a moral obligation to let them know about whatever it is you do, whether or not they choose to take you upon it. I would even argue further that if you do not reach out to the appropriate people, you’re doing them a disservice. Because you could help them and they’ll never know it if you don’t talk to them. And that doesn’t mean that everybody is going to say yes to you. But the more you talk to people, more people will say yes. I think that in terms of the fear of cold, calling it It often comes from a funder fundamental misunderstanding of what we’re trying to do. Because we’re not calling up a complete, like, open up the phone book, call a complete stranger and ask them for their credit card. That’s not what we’re doing. We’re doing our homework, we’re being very targeted. We’re talking about how we’re able to help. And it’s an introduction, you know, some, for years, people used to say to me, “Oh, I don’t want to cold call because I want to build relationships”, and that completely confused me. I didn’t know what they were talking about. And then one day, it dawned on me, you still have to build the relationship. This is your introduction.
Christine Schlonski [9:43]
Wendy Weiss [9:46]
And so if you think of it as an introduction, you’re not calling to get someone to buy something from you over the phone in like 30 seconds. Or if they say, “Well, I’m already working with a coach.” You’re not saying, “Well, dump your coach and hire me”, you’re calling to introduce yourself and if you look at it like that, everything changes.
Christine Schlonski [10:11]
Yeah, I love that point of view. It’s starting that relationship, you got to start somewhere. We all have had like maybe a first date.
Wendy Weiss [10:24]
It started somewhere. And so um the other half of this equation then is, this really is a skill set. One of the biggest questions I get asked people will say, “Wendy, what do I say if they say I’m not interested?” Well, you know, what, if everybody you talked to says I’m not interested, that means they don’t think you’re saying anything interesting. It is a skill and you can learn how to do it. And what I’ve seen over and over again in our programs is, we teach a very step by step process and we help people figure out exactly what to say and the best way to say it. And it’s always so much fun because every time we do one of our coaching programs, at the end of the program, I asked everybody, what’s changed for you? We do it over three months so we can keep working with people and then go, “Oh, yeah, now I just call up my prospect and I get them on the phone and I say what I have to say and they book an appointment with me”, and they kind of say like that, like they’re completely blogs a because the fear goes away. It doesn’t have to be a horrible, scary thing. You don’t have to love it. Although many people eventually find that it’s, I mean, it’s kind of fun calling up people and they say yes to you when you know the right things to say. I think that’s kind of fun.
Christine Schlonski [12:01]
I think that’s kind of fun. So do you remember the very first thing you ever sold? Like in your life not necessarily business like the very first thing you ask somebody for money?
Wendy Weiss [12:18]
Well, I had, when I was dancing, I had many freelance jobs, many day jobs in between my dance gigs. And I used, I’m going to date myself now because one of my freelance jobs was as a typesetter. That people use we used to actually set type for books, for magazines, it was not, is not the way we do it today. It was an actual skilled job, and I freelanced and I happen to know a piece of equipment that not a lot of people know Know. And so I would just look at the want a odds. And if I saw a company that was advertising and they used me, the equipment I knew. I’d call him up and I’d say, “I don’t want a job. I’m a freelancer. Here’s my phone number if you need me”, and I fill anytime I needed a day job, I just filled my calendar like that. And what was very funny to me was people used to say to me, “Have you ever considered going to sales?” And I go, “What?” because I was a ballet dancer. Like I was like, “No, what are you talking about?” So many years later, here I am.
Christine Schlonski [13:42]
Yeah. Now that’s so fun. So you probably did have some entrepreneurial blood in you. I just, you know, having the idea. I tried so many cool stories over all these interviews from, you know, like little kids painting stones and trying to sell them to the neighbors. Then Facebook hides cookies like all of this. So it’s really, really funny how creative people are when it actually comes to sales and what they don’t see.
Wendy Weiss [14:14]
Christine Schlonski [14:16]
Great. So how do you deal with rejection? Because, you know, you said like, when it’s just part of it. But was it always easy for you to just, “Okay, well, off to the next”, or can you give some advice if people really have a hard time was getting rejected, that helps them to ease the conversation.
Wendy Weiss [14:40]
Okay. I would actually argue that getting rejected is not part of it. That’s the myth that it’s somehow toughening up so that you can deal with the rejection. I have a colleague that teaches the same topic and he says prospecting sucks, get over it. Well, if that’s where you start, prospecting sucks. That’s hard. So you know, what if you didn’t think it sucked? What if you just thought it was a way to get business? And the first thing I do is I look at this as data. So if you have some calls and they are not successful, that’s data, that’s not rejection. What could you do differently? How could you change that reaction? And we also have to look at what people actually say. For example, lots of times clients will say to me, the prospects had they’re busy so they rejected me. No, they didn’t reject you. They said they were busy. So now you’re negotiating when? Like when are they not so busy? You can have an appointment then. The prospect said they’re already working with someone. So they rejected me. No, they didn’t reject you. They said they’re working with someone. But that’s, first of all, it’s good news. That means they already understand the value, whatever it is you do. They not only understand the value, but they are also paying for it, they have money, they have a budget. And you’re not calling them up and saying, “Hey, dump your coach, hire me.” You’re saying I want to introduce myself. So it’s almost irrelevant. They’re not rejecting you. You haven’t had a conversation yet. So we also need to look at what it is the prospects are actually saying because there are the facts. And then they’re the stories you tell yourself about the facts. And the facts are, you’re going to call someone you’re either going to reach them or you’re not. If you reach them, you’re going to say something, they are going to say something. And that is pretty much it. Those would be the facts. The story is, I’m bothering them, I’m interrupting them, they’re going to say no, they’re going to say that working with someone, they’re going to reject me. You haven’t, you haven’t even talked to them yet. You don’t know what they’re going to do. So this is all part of getting to neutral. It’s a human being says something and you respond to what they say. And to my knowledge, and I’ve been doing this a long time. Nobody’s ever died from cold calling.
Christine Schlonski [17:40]
Thank you for saying that. Yes, that’s true and I haven’t heard of any stories where, actually, you know, the hand of the person you call comes through the phone, grabbing your throat.
Wendy Weiss [17:55]
No, that doesn’t happen either.
Christine Schlonski [17:58]
So yeah, so I guess it’s a learnable skill.
Wendy Weiss [18:02]
It’s a learnable skill and when you get it right, what happens is, you say what they have to say and they go, “Okay”, and they open up their calendars and I book an appointment.
Christine Schlonski [18:16]
Yeah, totally. And it’s fun, right?
Wendy Weiss [18:21]
It is fun. It is fun.
Christine Schlonski [18:24]
The better you get, the more fun it is. This just means you need to practice with the right target, with the wrong one because then you will be rejected all day long. So I guess the homework would be, do your homework.
Wendy Weiss [18:41]
Christine Schlonski [18:42]
Get clear, put the fundamentals in place and then just practice, have some fun. Nobody died from cold calling. Thank you for this deep release. And I think you know, making it fun for people to actually pick up the phone. I always tell my clients where if you pick up the phone, nobody’s going to see you. Nobody’s going to see that your heart rate is faster or you might blush or, you know, just have that conversation. And the more conversations you have, the easier it will be. Because you feel more confident, and you feel better in your own skin.
Wendy Weiss [19:23]
Christine Schlonski [19:25]
So I highly want to encourage the people to get your Cold Calling Survival Guides. To get action steps to book the first appointment. I will definitely put the link into the show notes. If somebody needs to look you up right now it’s http://www.coldcallingresults.com/. And thank you so so much for sharing your wisdom with us. I mean, you’ve done that for years. You are brilliant at it. There is a reason why people call you The Queen of Cold Calling. This doesn’t come from around the corner. It’s years of doing it and supporting people and getting great results. And so if you are listening and you feel like you need more time and you want to spend some time in Hawaii, traveling, I would highly suggest get better and prospecting, cold calling, have fun with it, and really go out and do what you need to do, is to serve people with your gifts that you’re putting into the world. Give them your value in exchange for money. Is there anything you want to say to finish off, Wendy?
Wendy Weiss [20:35]
Yeah, I will simply say that either you think you can or you think you can’t. And either way, you’re right, I believe was Henry Ford that said that?
Christine Schlonski [20:45]
Yes, I believe so too. So, yeah. Awesome. Thank you so so much, and have a wonderful day.
Wendy Weiss [20:54]
You too. Bye, bye.
Christine Schlonski [20:57]
Well, I hope you took a ton of notes. I definitely took some. So I think the wisdom Wendy shared with us was amazing in the last two episodes, and you can hop on over to https://christineschlonski.com/. Find the podcast tab and there you’ll find all the links that connect you directly to Wendy, the links to her books and as well the link to her amazing free gift. Thank you so much for being here. I so appreciate you tuning in. And you want to make sure that you hop on over to https://christineschlonski.com/. And when you over there, sign up for the empowerment notes. These are my notes right into your inbox once a week where I share all the Heart Sells! Podcast updates, as well as something I usually do not talk on social media about and you, will also have the opportunity to get amazing free staff training some really really cool offers. Once you are joining the tribe of high sellers, thank you so much for being here and wishing you a wonderful day wherever you are in this beautiful world and I’m saying bye for now.
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